The Permatex gasket remover works well - just be sure that you've got something positively blocking the port from the solvent running down into the valve area. I use small, soft rubber balls pushed into the port opening, but anything like that'll do.
Sorry I forgot to mention the chapstick - That was a George Brown trick that I've been using since he mentioned it and it's great. You might think twice about using that same chapstick on your lips later on, though...
Just use the stick to put an even layer of stuff on both sides of the gasket - not a heavy coat, just get it "wet".
I'm just about to tackle my own intake manifolds, but I'm going to go gasketless. Plan on facing the manifold flanges that mate between the heads and the manifolds on a surface plate with fine sandpaper (400 - 1200 grit) so that I'm sure that they're flat. The head surfaces I'll dress with a knife honing stone (and with the engine still in place, THAT'll be a joy), and when everything's flat and flush I'll hit 'em with Locktite 510 and torque them down.
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