Arlin,
Here's some ideas, some may apply, some may not.
1. The top has a fold into that front bow. If there is too much material folded & glued into the bow it will be hard to make it fit the windshield frame. Unfortunately fixing this means pulling out canvas (you have canvas?) and it'll be encrusted with 3M glue and almost impossible to get the glue off and then refolded without a mess. You can use a glue remover like "OOPs" in a well ventalated area and clean this folded area. Then refold and possibly trim in a shorter fold and then glue.
2. Do the above with a new bow with the turnbuckle clips from VS or JPS.
3. Buy a new top and do 1 & 2, or have JPS/VS install the bow. Best choice!
Alternative with what you have-. Get the canvas wet at a car wash, loosen the turnbuckles all the way out and snap them in first (takes 2 people) have your helper hold the snaps in place while you use some rubberized grips to pull all the snaps into place and snap in. Use your top levers to pop the angle up. Set it to dry a day and then do it over with the turnbuckles in 2-3 screws, repeat until you've stretched the canvas so that you can put on your top the normal way. which is:
snap the two snaps that hold your front bow to the windshield, pick 2 snaps around the edge on either side in back and snap. Get in the car, push (pull) the front bow into place as much as practical, your turnbuckles should be at or near optimal settings, click them in... many times they will just hold there without you snapping them closed. Get out and finish the snaps.... get in, snap the turnbuckles.... if there appears to be some play left, then unsnap and tighten each side a turn or two equally, then snap them in. Raise yout levers to give top tension.
As far as floppy tops........ if it's canvas.... wait till a good hot day..... soak your top installed and let it dry in the hot sun. If you find loose areas due to uneven shrinkage, soak them and do the hair dryer thing on the affected areas.
As far as tops flopping loose from side windows? Common thing. First look at how much better your side curtains work if they are not inserted all the way down, I think some of the patterns they have used for the side curtains put the pins too high and so the top of the curtain canvas doesn't fit into the top "sheath" (inside/outside flaps)quite as good as it should. An easy fix? Find some tubing that fits over your pins. Cut the 1/4" of tubing and slide onto the pin so that it makes the curtains sit higher without losing their seal at the body (bottom) side.
Last fix, which I am doing this winter. Have a top shop sew in Velcro strips on the inside of each side panel at the top, two 1" ones front and back. Have matching pieces sewn to the INSIDE flap of the side curtain sheath. This way it will un"snap/seal" to the curtain as you open the door and then automatically seal upon closing. The best part? It doesn't show from the outside as the seal is between the window panel and the inner flap. The clear tubing is short and doesn't take away from appearance..... and now you can hit the freeways in that quartering wind without having the top pull to the edge of the door panel.
How do I know? I broke a bow once, and had to DIY and learn what works, No expert.... just know what worked for me.
Jim