I'm with Stan.....I wish literally, but at least in spirit on his trip. You shouldn't have oil cooling problems with that engine, regardless of fuel delivery system, with a proper oil cooling system. Either you're not getting enough oil flow, or not enough air flow through the cooler, or it just plain is not up to the task but it's gotta be something on the oil cooling side of the equation. Things I would look at are (more or less in order):
1. Is the case truly full-flowed or are you using an oil pump cover with an input/output cover? Those don't flow as much oil out to the cooler (like, less than 50%)
2. Is the original oil pump output plugged in the case? Everything should be coming out of the pump cover port (which, hopefully, in your climate is a pressure-limiting cover from Berg), not flowing to the gallery from the original pump output and bypassing your external cooler.
For the external cooler:
3. Is it getting adequate oil flow?
4. Is it getting adequate air flow? There should be AT LEAST 1/2" between the cooling vanes and the surface it's mounted to. 3/4" is better.
5. Is the fan pulling in the right direction? It should be pulling from the mounted surface up through the cooler, not the other way around (and it's pretty easy to get it backwards).
6. Is it up to the task? Is it similar or the same as what other people are successfully running on their bigger engines? Maybe Henry or Carey Hines could help with this, but there are a bunch of big engine folks on here who can let you know what they are running.
For the internal cooler: (which provides about 30%-40% of your oil cooling)
7. If it's a stock cooler, are the air vanes installed and working? They direct more air through the cooling tower area to compensate for the cooler air resistance. If they are not there, #3 cylinder will be 30% hotter and your oil temp will rise 10-20 degrees.
8. Is the airflow blocked by crud in the cooler vanes?
9. Is the pressure relief valve (under the engine) working properly? If it's kicking in too low, it'll bypass the internal cooler and you get bupka for cooling. This can often happen when running 50 weight oil because it stays thicker on hot days forcing your oil pressure higher which might be enough to trip the pressure relief valve if it's set too low.
Oh! And you asked about the fan flying apart on rpm excursions to 6,500 and beyond. The only guys I would trust for a detonation-proof fan at that speed would be the Berg boys, period.