David,
Car owners frequently seem to be in the middle of a disagreement, with their mechanic allegedly telling them fact A, while SOC members are telling them fact B. Usually, however, there is more agreement than disagreement.
What SOC members are telling you is that oil that is too cold is just as bad as oil that is too hot, since cold oil doesn't lubricate properly and causes undue wear. You would need to wait for longer warm-up periods without an oil thermostat, since the function of the oil cooler is to remove heat. Thus, if your oil cooler is working all the time, it takes longer to get up to operating temp. You may be comfortable with that fact, but most owners want to decrease the additional engine wear that occurs when oil is under operating temp.
Depending on load, ambient air temps, and efficiency of your cooler, your oil cooler may only be needed occasionally at any rate. BTW, oil thermostats are not considered unreliable. They are an integral part of the improved lubricating system. Your mechanic may have a prejudice against thermostats, but it's not a concern shared by most VW mechanics. I suggest you do more research, since you still seem unconvinced. There's lots of supporting research on line regarding the successful use of remote oil coolers and t-stats.
Remember that what an oil thermostat does is to help bring oil up to efficient temp quickly, thus reducing engine wear. The t-stat won't open to allow oil to enter the cooler until the designated temp is reached. You may get your oil up to temp without one, but it takes longer and increases wear. Since the cooler removes oil heat, it naturally takes longer to get to optimal operating temp.