KW- You have many choices- anything for a VW Type 1 will work, but not necessarily well. Nothing looks as "correct" (I hate that term) as an old, stock VW shifter re-bent to look more "356-ey"- and I've had a couple in an effort to get away from shifters that look like they belong on a '78 Firebird (as it were). I'm sure I'll get some blow-back from the stock shifter crowd- but in my humble opinion (which I'm sure you'll be surprised to hear I possess), they are so loose and vague as to be unusable.
The reason so many guys (me included) have the goofy-looking reverse lock-out shifters (EMPI) is that they work really, really well and cost <$50. A Berg tee-handle (I'm told) works even better (and costs 6x as much)- but everybody has a line they won't cross, and mine's something I wouldn't even want aesthetically in the aforementioned Firebird. My shifter looks out of place in my car. I've done what I can to hide that fact, but there it is. It stays because it works so well.
I stopped caring so much when I realized that my car wasn't a 356, and I could stop slavishly trying to replicate everything stock. I like my car for what it is, and the stupid-looking shifter reminds me that what works beats what looks good- every single time. My thinking is: a racer in 1965 would've used what worked, and not given a rat's eyelash for "originality". At some point, you'll ask yourself why it matters so much- but that's not a point you have arrived at yet.
Anyhow... to answer your question directly: Vintagespeed (find him on the Samba) makes and sells a shifter that should meet your desires. It looks stock, but has the feel of a really good, tight aftermarket shifter. It take some modification (shortening the handle) and costs $350, but it sounds like it would fit the bill for you perfectly.